Brindabellas said:

And in today’s instalment of having elderly parents:

Dad has decided against eating – not even the snacks of chocolates and chips I bring in
Mum has done the paperwork for Stepdad to go into permanent care ( and he really doesn’t want to go – but no option- it sucks!)

Sorry to hear, Ms Bellas. Don’t know anyone that wanted to go into care. But once there…. different story.